Men???

I know it's an age old question that has plagued the sexes...but the hell! I am just mystified by the way that men think...more specifically my husband. Intellectually, I know that we are different, but truly...that different? I am continually confounded on how much he just breezes through life. It seems to work for him apparently, but it really sticks in my craw the amount of effort he really doesn't put forth and still is able to function. Then has the nerve, gall or audacity to be confused when I get mad or frustrated at him. Which seems to be quite a bit. I am hoping that his confusion is because he really doesn't understand, because the alternative is that he is aware of what a jerk he can be and doesn't care. That is more of a concern for me than oblivion.

A specific situation is our water bill. First be aware that he takes no interest in our bills or finances other than to "bring home the money" or bitch because we are scraping by. So I really don't expect him to suddenly develop an interst...I've gotten past that. But we hadn't paid our water bill, so we recieved a shut-off notice. So I told him, just kind of keeping him the loop, I really didn't expect him to do anything about it. So I made out our bills, took care of what I needed to online and then others by mail. I ended up leaving them on the desk because I forgot to take them before I left on a trip. So there they sat...with stamps and addressed. Did he see them? Of course. So I kept forgetting to put them in the mail or even drop it off...many, too many things going on that week. So I missed our deadline for the water payment. So yep, when I got home there was the notice. And I had the bill in my purse...so I rushed to go pay it. Can't go without water these days...never a good thing. So yes, I am pissed at myself, but really pissed at him. He was home the whole time I was gone, saw the bills that needed to be mailed. I told him about the shut-off notice. But just left it there for me.

I guess the biggest issue I have is that when I forget something, I don't have back up. The ball is dropped and I have to fix my mistake because there isn't anyone else. But when my husband forgets, doesn't do or just doesn't want to do, I get to be there. Unfortunately the things that he drops the ball on are items that just can't be left or we suffer. I would be glad to just let him fall on his butt (and have) but with bills or the kids I just can't. So it frustrates me that he doesn't want to be my back up. Doesn't provide me someone to watch my back when I am scattered or just not doing my best. Isn't that part of marriage? I've always thought so, but it doesn't appear that is what is happening. I haven't figured out the best solution to it yet and probably won't. So do I accept it or get rid of the issue? Ummmm...something to think about.